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Issue 03 — She Was 5'7" and I Was Running Out of Excuses

Alex. 24. SoCal, 2008.

There is a specific kind of tired that only comes from a 7am Saturday pickup game in the summer. The kind where your legs are done but your brain is still running plays, your jersey is soaked through, and you smell like effort and sunscreen and the specific desperation of someone who takes a recreational soccer league slightly too seriously.

This is my favorite kind of tired.

I was playing in a few different adult pickup leagues at the time — some during the week, late nights under stadium lights when the heat finally broke — but the one I looked forward to most was the Saturday morning game in Sunland. Co-ed. 7am. The kind of group that took it seriously enough to be fun but not so seriously that anyone was sliding into tackles with bad intentions.

Morgan started showing up about four months before everything.

She was tall. Blonde. Blue eyes. 5'7" with the kind of effortless tan that only happens when you actually spend time outside and not in a production trailer. Fit in the way that soccer players are fit — functional, earned. We've all dated at least one of them. You know the type. The type that makes you forget what you were talking about mid-sentence.

Here's the thing about playing soccer against someone you're attracted to: the game becomes its own language. When Morgan and I ended up on opposite teams — which happened often enough that I started to wonder if the universe had a sense of humor — there was always contact. A hand on a shoulder pulling back from the ball. Fingers grazing a wrist in a challenge. The kind of touching that has plausible deniability in the middle of a match and zero deniability anywhere else. We always wanted the ball played to us. We both knew why. Neither of us said anything.

After every game I walked her to her car. Small talk, easy laughs, nothing that went too deep. I told myself I was just being friendly. I was not just being friendly.

One Saturday in the middle of summer — sweaty, tired, still in our kit — she mentioned she was hungry.

In four months she had never mentioned being hungry after a game.

I said do you want to get brunch? She said yes before I finished the sentence.